I listened to a podcast yesterday (link) and it triggered some thoughts for me. The topic of this episode was how our perspective dictates our results. Although it was business focused, of course I filter it through a fitness mindset and how it can be helpful to my clients and readers.
Listening to the podcast got me thinking about some of the conversations I’ve had with my clients about their internal talk. That voice that they hear every day telling them what they can or cannot do.
You see, whenever we start a fitness journey we all set this external goal we want to achieve. We want to lose x amount of pounds or inches. We want to fit into the dress or bikini. We want to tone our arms or waistline. We want to expose those abs that we’ve been told we have. The list goes on and on about all the things we want to achieve. Externally.
However, have you ever really looked at the internal thoughts that go along with those goals? If you say “I want to lose 10 pounds” out loud, what does the internal voice say immediately after? Is it supportive or protagonistic? Does it say “yes you can” or does it come up with 20 different ways you can’t?
The thing I’ve learned is that this internal voice, our thoughts, our perspective towards what we are capable of is THE thing that will decide our outcome. The success of reaching your goals or not doesn’t depend on the amount of calories you eat and burn in a day, how many hours you spend at the gym or how many salads you eat in the week.
Your success of failure depends entirely on whether or not you BELIEVE you can succeed or not.
When I have this chat with my clients, usually the internal talk doesn’t match the external talk. They have all of these aspirations and desires, they’re motivated as fuck to finally do this thing and make a positive change in their lives, but their internal dialogue doesn’t allow it.
On the inside, they believe that they can’t achieve their goals. They believe that they aren’t that type of person. They believe that they don’t have what it takes. They believe that they are the exception and it won’t work for them.
Does any of this sound familiar ?
Truth is we all have this. Me include.
On some level we all have an internal voice putting little doubts in our mind about our abilities. A few can shut them off, manage them or ignore them. But many of us end up being controlled by these thoughts and they are dictating our lives.
So how do we stop these negative thoughts?
Well, the solution isn’t about getting rid of these thoughts all together, it’s about building our strength to be aware of them, manage them and to choose the actions that move us towards our goals no matter what they are saying.
How do you do that???
You get help. That’s how.
You get support. You talk to someone who knows what you’re going through. Ye get a teammate to hold you accountable when you’re not strong enough yet to do it on your own.
Depending on your position and goals this help could be a therapist, a coffee with a friend, a support group, or a coach. Business coach, life coach, or heck, maybe even a health/fitness coach! 😉
The thing is, this interval voice is damn good and it’s run your life for years. To overcome that most of us need some level of support.
The point is, to get stronger ourselves sometimes we need the help of someone else. Sometimes we need another strong external voice to help us overcome the internal one.
Because until we do, we’re never going to see the success we desire.