The Journey is Always Filled With Failure

I had a great talk with my client the other day where she was feeling super positive. She had a great day, got her workout done early, was eating healthy and had the positive mindset looking towards the weekend. Everything was rainbows and butterfly’s.

But as the incredibly talented Adam Levine says: It’s not always rainbows and butterflies.

A little way through our chat I asked her if she could write down a review of her first month. The ups and downs, what she learned and what she didn’t expect. Things like that. I was surprised when I realized this got her upset. Even though things were going great at this moment, she was upset just thinking about it.

She realized that she felt she would only see the negative. That even if there was good, she tends to focus on the bad and the failure. She was upset that her outlook was that way.

This conversation got me thinking. Why do we focus so much on failure and why do we consider it such a bad thing? Continue reading “The Journey is Always Filled With Failure”

Is Your Focus on Success or Failure?

You started working towards your goal but you’re failing.

You’re trying hard but every day is a struggle. You’re finding it hard to just keep up with life let alone find time to workout, eat healthy and update your journal/log.

In fact, most days it feels like more stress than something that helps.

What’s the point if it’s just making things worse?

Sound familiar?

These are the thoughts we have when we’re focusing on failure. We’re focussed on the struggle, how hard it is and how far away our goals are.

We missed another workout. We had another bad meal or binged last night. The list goes on and on for all of the things we’re failing at.

But what if we changed our perspective? Continue reading “Is Your Focus on Success or Failure?”

Not sure it will work?

not sure it will work

Have you ever hesitated to sign up at the gym, download the app, purchase the equipment, or hire the trainer because you’re just not sure it will work?

not sure it will work

You’ve already tried so many things, is this just going to be one more thing that ends up in the same place? Failure.

Truth is, everything works. Every workout program, every diet, everything. Continue reading “Not sure it will work?”

Work, the variable of success

We are 3 weeks into January and the sad reality is that many people have already “fallen off the wagon” from their new year resolutions.

This might even be you.

You’ve missed a day, two or even a week already because life is busy and pulling you in every direction.

It seems like you’ve failed already.

However, that just isn’t true. It’s only a failure if you let it be.

You may have failed last week or maybe even yesterday but today is a new day. You get a new chance to get up and put in the work.

The difference between success and failure is how hard you work.

If you give up and stop working, of course that’s a failure. If you’re wondering why you’re not seeing results but you’re putting in minimal effort, stop worrying. It’s the effort, you need to work harder.

Even if you’re working your ass off and still not seeing results, you still have to work harder.

I’m sorry if that’s not what you wanted to hear, but it’s the truth.

How hard you’re working is the variable dictating wether or not you will be successful.

If you’re struggling, take a step back, review your goal and ask yourself what it’s worth. Is it worth the effort?

If not, that’s ok, but you need to find something else. If yes, then shut the eff up, quit whining and get to work!

If you need a little guidance to help you fit it all in let me know, I’m here to help!

~ Chad

Trust the process – seeing the big picture

After launching our new Lifestyle Coaching service in late October last year, I’ve seen some great progress in the clients that have already signed up.

The service is completely built around seeing “the big picture” and of course developing a lifestyle of healthy habits. Right from day one we are thinking long term and not just short term.

The benefits have been better than I expected!

In my 6+ years of online coaching what I’ve seen is that Continue reading “Trust the process – seeing the big picture”

Knowing What To Do – The Straightest Road To Success

Straightest Road to Success

Last week I wrote an article about knowing what to do, and how much people waste time trying to get information on a very micro level. They’re searching for the straightest road to success.

They’re constantly in search for that one thing that’s going to make all the difference when in reality there’s a lot of things that factor into getting results.

As an online fitness coach and I’ve worked with hundreds of people on their health and fitness goals. I, like many others in my field, would like to say that I know what I’m doing and that I have the answer.

However, this comes with a grain of salt. I don’t always have THE answer first try, but I do have many ways to find the answer.

Let me explain:

Like my last article, when we are searching for micro level answers like “the best exercise” or “the best food” for some specific outcome, we have a very limited vision. We are only focused on one thing and we want one answer. We are trying to find the straight road to success. The linear path.

Sadly, there are plenty of people in my industry that are offering their program as THE answer and THE path.

This is probably because what they’re selling worked for them. They found an exercise, food, routine, habit, schedule, etc that works for them.

And in truth it does or did work!

…for them.

They found a path. One.

 

The question is whether or not that path will work for you.

 

So, when I say I know what I’m doing, and even if I say I have the answers, what I actually mean is that I have a really good idea of what I’m doing. It’s a very well educated guess that comes from years of experience and hundreds of clients testing different methods. Testing different paths.

I like to think of it like a nature guide, mechanic or computer repairman.

You hire a nature guide because they know where to go. They know the path and they’ve traveled it before. However, in nature unexpected things happen. There’s avalanches, floods, fires, rockslides and wild animals. The real value in the guide isn’t that they know the one path to get you where you want to go, it’s that they know many paths and can navigate the obstacles that come up.

The mechanics and computer repair men are similar in that they have a deep understanding of how their products work. If it’s not working, they are ready to navigate the obstacles. They have the skills to troubleshoot by looking at many different aspects and finding the area the needs to be addressed.

All of these people know how to do this because of years of experience, study and trial and error.

NONE of them know the perfect answer when they start.

They will probably be close, but what’s most important is from there they have many options and paths.

They will use education, trial and error, and experience to reach their goals.

They will navigate the obstacles and find the straightest road to success.

The great thing is you too have the ability to use trial and error to find your path. You can jump into the wild and figure it out. It will have many setback and struggles, but if you keep pushing you’ll find a way.

The key is that whether it’s on your own, or with support and guidance, there is always a way to reach your goal. However, it won’t be straight and it there’s no one or perfect answer. It will take trial and error.

 

Straightest Road to Success

 

My conclusion is very similar to last week:

 

Don’t waste time trying to find the perfect answer or one path, it doesn’t exist.

No one thing is going to work for everyone. And even if it does work for you, it usually won’t keep working forever.

There is no straight road to success, but an experienced coach will help you find the straightest.

~ Chad

Your New Year Resolution Won’t Last! – Here’s why

Your New Year Resolution Won't Last, but that's ok!

It’s January. What that means for a TON of people is that their new year resolution has started.

It’s an exciting time with tons of visions, tons of motivation and tons of goals!

The next exciting time will be when you fail!

I say that failing is exciting because it really can be if you’ve set yourself up for success and planned for that failure. Most people fear the point of failure but guess what – it’s going to happen.

You are going to fail.

I guarantee it and it’s okay.

The point here is to help you realize it will happen and in fact it should! Instead of setting yourself up problems and struggle with failure by avoiding or denying that it will happen, don’t deny it, know it will and plan for it.

How many times have you started something and been perfect at it from the start? Ya, probably not many.

Also, how many times have you really grown or learned from something that was easy the whole time and didn’t push your limits? Ya, probably not many.

When I work with my clients, I always have a plan for when they fail.

It’s never been a matter of if they will fail, it’s when.

I’m constantly pushing them and challenging what they can handle. I’m actually trying to find that point where they’ll fail. From there, we re-work the plan, pick them back up and carry on our merry way.

Your New Year Resolution Won't Last!

So this year, if you’re working on a new year resolution, do yourself a favour and plan for your failure. As the old saying goes: “it’s not whether you get knocked down, it’s whether you get up”.

If you truly want to make this a new YEAR resolution and not just a new JANUARY resolution, plan to pick yourself up. A lot.

Chad