When my clients hear how I eat pizza, drink beer or hate working out sometimes, so many of them tell me that they thought I love working out, I eat a perfect diet every day, and that it’s probably impossible for me to gain weight.
The crazy thing is that I think it’s just an excuse.
Let me explain…
Although there may be a sliver of truth to the last one, it’s mostly not true. And I only say sliver because it depends what you mean by “gain weight”.
If I just wanted to gain weight, aka pounds on the scale, then sure I can stop working out, eat whatever I want any time I want, and put on pounds. That’s basically easy for anyone.
What’s not easy for me is to gain significant LEAN body mass. Truthfully this isn’t all that easy for anyone because it requires a lot of time and effort in the gym. Just like it’s hard for many people to lose significant fat weight, it can be hard to gain significant lean mass weight. But, I digress.
Back to the explanation and let me start with this key piece of info:
Yes, weird to say, but surprisingly necessary.
By assuming all of the things above about me, it puts me on some un-human level, some pedestal that’s impossible to reach.
This is why I consider it an excuse.
By trying to make my success, or anyone else’s for that matter, something unattainable by most ordinary humans, it becomes an excuse for yourself. It makes the result unattainable by the average person. Aka you.
So, to be clear about me:
No, I don’t (always) like working out. Sometimes I do, but often I don’t.
No, I don’t follow a perfect diet. In fact I follow no diet and count no calories.
Yes I drink alcohol. In moderation.
Yes I can gain weight. If I let it all go.
At the end of the day, I think what’s important is that it’s not really about me, it’s about you. Well maybe it’s both. It’s about the COMPARISON of yourself to me, or anyone else, that is the issue.
Your body is yours and that’s it. We all have different strengths and weakness and as I’ve learned over my many years and hundreds of clients, we all have our own personal journey.
Stop comparing yourself to others. It’s usually in a sense of how they have some special gift and you don’t making your journey that much harder.
It just isn’t true.
We all have to work hard.
We all have to do things we don’t always want to do if we are going into reach our goals.
We all have our struggles.
Stop using and unrealistic comparison as an excuse not to pursue your goals.
Just focus on the next step of YOUR journey. One day at a time, one step at a time.